Nowadays intermarriages have become extremely popular and no wonder it is so. The world is free as ever and most of the countries have finally opened their doors for everyone. Some people find it extraordinary to leave their motherlands and go rambling all over the world. People are charmed by exotic places, interesting destinations and it seems as we have all the possibilities in the world to make our life as exciting as an adventure movie. But there’s one thing – people are social creatures. They say – no man is an island and it’s true. People go travelling accompanied by someone they care about; otherwise they meet new people and eventually get involved in a relationship with a foreigner. We have left behind the time when mixed marriages were unusual.
It is always a challenge to date a person of some other nationality. Some people find it very exotic and crave for finding love in some other country. What are the pitfalls of dating a foreign girl? Let’s first of all specify the term “foreign” – in this article we are going to focus on strong black women and answer the following questions:
- How to make a first step towards a beautiful black lady?
- How to find common ground while communicating with her?
- What things/actions to avoid while being with a black woman?
- How to make a good impression on an Afro-American girl? Etc…
- How to make a first step towards a beautiful black lady?
You’d be surprised but…she’s an ordinary human being and there’s no special technique that applies strictly to white or black girls. First of all you need to attract her attention – make her look with interest and curiosity. It doesn’t take much effort to achieve this goal: just be yourself, be creative and self-confident. Keep in mind that if you’re not being yourself you can mislead your girl and neither of you two needs a broken heart. If you’re not self-confident she would never even pay attention at you. So try to find all that manhood that you have and show it to her in a creative and interesting way – women like strong and confident men. Once you got her attention just keep on going – you don’t want her interest to vanish at once.
- How to find common grounds while communicating with her?
Here’s the best advice: just listen to her. If she’s an open person she will tell you everything you need to know about her. But there’s one important thing to keep in mind – don’t pretend you’re listening, do listen. Once you got the girl’s attention, ask her how she likes to spend her leisure time, what makes her laugh, what makes her happy, what books inspire her and so on. Your main goal is to find something that would unite you two, give you lots of topics to discuss, experience to share and so on. It’s much easier to get along with a person if you are passionate about one and the same thing and if you managed to find that thing with your black girl – your relationship has future.
- What things to avoid while being with a black woman?
Every race, every nationality has certain peculiarities that you should always take into account while getting in touch with those people. At times this special features appear to awkward, but if you don’t take them into consideration people would think you are rude. So, you’re dating a strong black woman for the first time – what things NOT to do?
- Don’t eroticize her – she’s an ordinary woman of flesh and blood.
Sometimes men are so eager to seduce a black girl because they think Afro-American women are exotic. Well, we won’t say it’s not entirely true – sure they are exotic. But sure as hell they wouldn’t be pleased to know that men are willing to date them only because of the novelty feeling they bring. The same applies to a representative of any race – people wish to be appreciated for their qualities, but not for their skin colour. So if you’re a womanizer looking for some new experience – just be honest with your girl and don’t give her the wrong impression that you are truly into her.
- Don’t get obsessed by her “black” features
Don’t pay so much attention to her hair. Yep, it looks different, it feels different, but it’s still human hair – nothing to be so obsessed about. Of course you can touch it, by your friends can’t and don’t even ask for that. Sometimes she would wear a funny cap at night in order to prevent her hair from getting messy. Naturally, you think that it’s pointless because her hair is all about being messy, but let a woman do her silly little things if she wants to. She would appreciate you not mentioning how funny that cap is and more precisely how peculiar she looks wearing it.
- Don’t hide the fact that you’re together from your friends and parents
It is incredibly frustrating when a person you love is ashamed of you. So man up and make your relationship with your girl public. She needs to feel secure and comfortable in your company and that’s certainly not possible if you’re not able of telling your nearest and dearest that you date a black girl. C’mon, people! It’s not 18 century anymore and class division is not that harsh as it used to be.
- Don’t start talking about slavery
Usually white guys feel guilty and start behaving in a weird way with their black girls. She wouldn’t mind watching Jango or The Help with you, just don’t give her the impression that she’s one of the slaves’ descendant and she needs to be treated in a special way. History is history, it cannot be changed but the good news is – it’s all gone. So stop obsessing about the past and take care about your future with that girl.
- Don’t compare her to your white ex-girlfriends
No woman likes to be compared to anyone. Well, only if she’s better/prettier/smarter/kinder than the other girl you can talk to her about that. Otherwise you risk spoiling your relationship and never getting on the same page with her again. Remember that while she’s your girl, she’s the most beautiful, clever and coolest girl in your life. No comparison is appropriate here.